Domestic Violence Ministry - Healing Hurts

Mission Statement:

It is the mission of the Healing Hurts Ministry to bring about awareness and liberation from the silent epidemic of domestic violence in our churches and community by providing educational workshops and by providing victims with the necessary resources to abundant living, free of fear and abuse.

Vision Statement:

Recognizing that 25% of Christian homes witness some kind of abuse; the same rate within church as anywhere else, it is the vision of the Healing Hurts Ministry to be a leader in the faith-based community confronting ideals that promote violence against women, ending the cycle of domestic violence.

Foundational Scripture:

Domestic violence robs people of happiness, destroys marriages and intimate relationships, and seeks to eradicate hope but be not deceived…

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.  I have come that they may have life and that they may have it more abundantly”- John 10:10 (NKJ)

Get Educated:

What is Domestic Violence?
•    A pattern of intentional coercive behavior used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner

Types of Abuse:
•    Physical-restraining, pushing, throwing objects, kicking, using weapons, pinching, slapping, choking, punching, murder
•    Verbal-name calling, threats, racial slurs, put downs, constant criticism, telling victim s/he is worthless (public and private)
•    Sexual-unwanted sexual contact, forced touching, rape, degrading; infidelity; non-consensual sexual contact of any kind
•    Emotional-isolation from family and friends, no privacy, belittling acts that cause or could cause mental anguish or distress; threats of physical danger, intimidation
•    Financial-Controlling $$, not paying bills, sabotaging credit/welfare, allowance, control resources

National Statistics:
•    One in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime
•    One in three teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been kicked, punched, slapped, or physically hurt by their partner
•    The FBI reports that one woman is beaten every 15 seconds in the U.S.
•    On average more than 3 women are murdered by their husbands or boyfriends in this country every day
•    Domestic Violence calls are the single largest category of calls received by police

Domestic Violence and the Church:
•    25% of Christian homes witness some kind of abuse
•    Same rate within church as anywhere else
•    Survey of 6000 pastors:
•    26%  advise to submit to husbands no matter  what
•    25%  told wives the abuse was their own fault for failing to submit in the first place
•    50%  said women should be willing to “tolerate some level of violence” because it’s better than divorce
                        -Denise George
                        What Women Wish Pastors Knew

Recognizing Abuse:
Does your partner:
•    Embarrass you with put-downs?
•    Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
•    Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?
•    Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
•    Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?
•    Make all of the decisions?
•    Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
•    Prevent you from working or attending school?
•    Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?
•    Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
•    Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
•    Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
•    Force you to try and drop charges?
•    Threaten to commit suicide?
•    Threaten to kill you?
If you answered ‘yes’ to even one of these questions, you may be in an abusive relationship.  -National Domestic Violence Hotline

Tips for Safety:
Are you planning on staying with your partner?
•    Identify things that have worked in the past to keep you safe
•    Think about what has happened in the past and how the abuser has acted. Identify clues that indicate when things are about to get violent (i.e. behavioral -- body language, drug/alcohol use, etc. -- and event driven -- paydays, holidays, etc.).
•    Explore ways to have dangerous weapons (i.e. guns, hunting knives, etc.) removed from the house.
•    Identify dangerous locations in the house (i.e. the kitchen - knives, hot water, oven, etc.) and try not to be trapped in them.
•    Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.
•    Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the house.
•    Plan an escape route and practice it. Know beforehand where you can go and who you can call for help.
If you are planning to leave, be prepared:
•    Make a plan for how and where you will escape.
•    Put aside emergency money as you can.
•    Hide an extra set of car keys.
•    Pack an extra set of clothes for yourself and your children and store them at a trusted friend or neighbor’s house. Try to avoid using the homes of next-door neighbors, close family members and mutual friends.

Take with you important phone numbers of friends, relatives, doctors, schools, etc., as well as other important items, including:
•    Driver’s license
•    Birth Certificate
•    Social Security Cards
•    Regularly needed medication
•    Credit cards or a list of credit cards you hold yourself or jointly
•    Pay stubs
•    Checkbooks and information about bank accounts and other assets
                    -House of Ruth Maryland
                    -National Domestic Violence Hotline

Get Help
If you are in immediate danger, please dial 911
The Healing Hurts Ministry of the Mount Lebanon Baptist Church offers prayer, a confidential hotline, confidential email, churchwide and community education as well as referrals for shelter care, safety planning, counseling and support groups.  Victims can call 410-225-9873 opt3 or email us directly at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

The House of Ruth Maryland is one of the nation's most comprehensive shelters offering counseling, emergency assistance and transitional housing for victims and their children.  More information can be found by clicking on the following link:  http://hruth.org/default.asp
The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides help 24hrs per day 365 days per year.  Hotline advocates are available for victims or anyone calling on their behalf to provide crises intervention, safety planning, information and referrals in all 50 states.  Information is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 170 other languages.  More information can be found by clicking on the following link:  http://www.thehotline.org/

Contact Us
To schedule a presentation or request participation in your community outreach event, please contact us at mtlebanonbaptistchurch.org